First, I want to tell you a little about who I am, and why it’s important for me to write this series. I’m a woman who has read enough health and wellness books to have earned a degree in nutrition (but I don’t have one). I’m the woman that has worked out with enough professionals to be a certified trainer (but I’m not). I am a 46-year-old, professional, semi confidant woman that struggles with a positive body image and deflects by making the jokes about myself first.
I live a life surrounded by women that are flawless, impeccable goddesses who fight daily to see themselves that way. I have a tribe of women who are strong, independent, powerful career women with husbands and children that don’t see how remarkable they are and the impact they make. I wanted to write this article as the woman I am; the imperfect, flawed, intelligent, beautiful and remarkable woman, to help others just like me.
This issue, I want to talk to you about mindset… because that’s what I’m working on. Mindset! It’s the most powerful thing we have as humans, as women, our free will, the ability to think for ourselves, to take in information and determine what to do with it. When we wake up every morning, we determine our mindset for the day. We decide how we’re going to experience the traffic on the 215 on the way into work. It can be a 30-minute commute to listen to your favorite audiobook, a motivational book relaxing classical music, or your favorite radio station. Or it can be spent hating your life, the driver that cut you off, wondering why you go to this job you hate to begin with.
I don’t want to come off as some preachy, self-help, motivational guru, but when things work, they work. There’s a billion-dollar industry that keeps proving it. Try this for the next month: spend the first ten minutes of your day in gratitude. If you can’t do ten minutes, start with five and work your way up. Before your feet ever touch the floor, think of ten things you are grateful for. They can be as simple as you’re grateful you slept through the night. TEN THINGS! Next, find a place where you can sit quietly for ten minutes with your thoughts. A room in your house, outside on your patio, a walk in your neighborhood. I sit outside by my pool as the sun comes up. Sit, with your favorite coffee, tea, morning drink and think of all the things you have in your life and how fortunate you are to have them.
Don’t be surprised if when you first start this practice you don’t remain grateful. We as women, spend a lot of time, programed by society, social media, television, Hollywood and our peers to judge ourselves. We always see what we don’t have, who we’re not, how our bodies have failed to be perfect. I’ll share with you a recent morning.
“I’m grateful for the tribe of women in my life. I am grateful for their strength, when I am all out. Hmmm, strength, I remember when I could squat 600 lbs., now I weigh 600 lbs. (which I don’t!!) Remember my legs, how ripped, now my thighs just rub together in a jello-y mess… (remembering I am being grateful). I am grateful for my thighs that are strong enough to carry me day to day.”
So, you see, I am a work in progress. It takes time for us to change our mindset. We must train our brains, our thoughts just like we train our bodies. We owe it to ourselves to be the healthiest, strongest, and most grateful version of ourselves possible. Learn to love and appreciate the light you generate.
Until next time… be grateful for fat thighs!
by Andrea Dupper